Sunday, October 07, 2012 ;
11:26 PM
Completed the HDB joint inspection on Saturday. Was a good decision. Learnt some things, clarified some queries during the time with the site supervisor and hdb officer.

Hopefully they will finish the rectification ASAP so we can proceed with the Reno as scheduled.

Bought our mattress on Friday. 12% rebate for tangs card holder! Yay! Decided to invest in a Tempur king size bed and hopefully it will alleviate some of our shoulder and neck problems. They don't sell bed frames so we gotta hunt for one soon. Read from the US site that it requires a solid base or the warranty will be void. Thank goodness for the Internet.

Both our sinks arrived from Amazon as well. Love them! One more shipment from amazon and we are done. Looking forward to them!

Next up, TV, sofa, dining table and chairs, 2 bar stools, coffee table. The rest is pretty much purchased. Can't wait to start our new chapter in our new home!


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Thursday, July 26, 2012 ;
11:24 PM
As long as we have each other, I'll always be happy. I love you baby!


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Friday, June 22, 2012 ;
1:32 AM
Too imposing. Overboard with my words. Regretful. 心好痛. I must remember never to say such hurtful things again. I should never hurt the person I love most using such insensitive, childish and inappropriate manner. I am sorry, I really am. 心真的好痛 T_T


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Saturday, May 12, 2012 ;
9:55 AM
Been a while since I blogged. Was busy trying to settle into the new home environment (read: lazy). Grew new lumps, went for a biopsy (or rather, 2) and results came back benign (phew). Gonna be a very busy 4 months ahead so decided to postpone the considerations of any surgery until my next review. Barely have any slot in my calendar to fit in a 2 week HL :( Came as a last minute thing in my surgeon's office because this was totally different from my mum and smelly's intent (they wanted me to remove them immediately). Happier news, my new house is slowly starting to take form. External facade coming together nicely and it looks like the first batch will get their letter from the HDB in the coming months. I am guessing ours belong to the second batch so we will probably get ours in Q4. Nonetheless we (I) are very excited to finally have our own little heaven and hopefully we can transform it into a home quickly and fill it with all the things we love! For once, I am looking forward to the chores that come with it! We have also met an ID (Huiling's ID) and started on some space and design planning. Will probably meet him again in the next couple of weeks when rough design is ready. Home front, people have been asking me how is married life. Still the same actually. But it's nice to be able to see smelly everyday after work. So I guess married life is good so far? :) Work wise, still the same. Still don't get the HQ mentality. Starting to wonder where is the efficiency. Starting to feel like a workhorse. Sigh. People are just waiting for you to volunteer to do the work first. Awful. Anw, it's the weekend again so do have a good rest people!


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Thursday, April 05, 2012 ;
7:00 PM
I just voiced my disappointment to my mom.

I know I shouldn't have, but this is how I feel now.

I don't know, I am just tired of this.

Why me is not even appropriate to describe how I feel now.

Again? is probably more apt.

When things like this happen, as much as I try to be in control, a part of me just spirals out of control.

Lucky? Or did I run out of luck, again?

She must have sensed the utter indifference.

Indifference. Disappointment. Distrust.

What' s left to believe when all hopes are disappearing one by one?


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Tuesday, January 31, 2012 ;
8:52 PM
It's near!

It's finally in sight, and in fact, it is next Saturday and Sunday!

My gosh! Time flies! And we are still left with a bunch of things to do!


Wed (1 Feb)
- Buy bags for M&Ms from SKP at heartland mall
- Facial at 7pm

Thurs (2 Feb)
- Dental 11am
- Change more money for tokyo
- Hair 2pm at Doreen's
- Buy materials for corsages (brown, pink & green satin ribbons)
- Go FEP/Ion to look at bridal shoes
- Get rings cleaned at Ion
- Program list - email guys/girls/Adrian/Hsin Yeow/Priscilia/May Chia and confirm their availability
- buy gate crashing gear for the boys



Fri (3 Feb)
- Bring 1 of leon's pillows over to my home
- Collect roses in the AM from home, pick up girls' dresses as well
- Gown fitting 1pm
- Plan itinerary for tokyo
- Remind daddy to help me collect frame
- buy song for montage from itunes


Sat (4 feb)
- meet the girls
- pass the girls the dresses + invitation cards
- Leon to pass boys the gate crashing accessories
- arrange for Shawn's suit fitting

Wed (8 Feb)
- Paste all the M&Ms bags with stickers first
- Complete the corsages

Thurs (9 Feb)
- Collect marriage cert from ROM with witnesses' photocopied nric
- Pack M&Ms
- SMS and email JP to confirm solemnisation date, time and venue. Provide him with SPOC.
- Run through montage (Chris)
- Collect gowns?


Fri (10 Feb)
- Do mani and pedi
- Pack for hotel stay
*Album
*Rings
*wedding tree
*clothes
*gown (wedding gown, evening gown, kua)
*shoes (red shoes alr with Leon)
*makeup kit
*emergency kit (sewing kit, hollywood tapes, nipple tapes, plasters)
- Remind Hsin Yeow/May of upcoming appts


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Saturday, January 28, 2012 ;
12:07 AM
We just crossed out 5th year yesterday! Happy 5th anniversary my beautiful Smelly! Our last one as singles! 2 more weeks to becoming Mr and Mrs Ee! Wow! I can't believe this is finally happening! Where did all that time go?! Guo da li tomorrow! Haha! This is really happening! As we reach another new milestone, I am just glad that I am embarking this journey with YOU. It is going to be our happily ever after! :) 12 years, and our friendship is bearing fruit ;) isnt it amazing!


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Wednesday, January 11, 2012 ;
10:39 PM
Details, details, details.

Sticker's a tad smaller than I expected. Cup looks overwhelmingly big in comparison. Time to downgrade the cups! :D Color of the sticker don't quite complement the cup perfectly as well.. Maybe its a good time to get one that's in powdered pink. Hmmm...


I like how my place cards complement my invitations. Plenty of hard work cutting them but worth the effort.


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Monday, January 09, 2012 ;
8:58 PM
Wee~ I love our invitation cards! Totally classy!

Brown and gold - they look awesome!


Yes, comes with our photo, hahaha, same price as printing just words, so why not :P Printed on shimmery paper.


Place card design #1 - brown and gold as well.


Place card design #2 - inverted the colours


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Sunday, January 08, 2012 ;
11:19 PM
An email from 3 March 2006 that changed everything. Reading it makes me cry every single time. I am very very glad you picked up the courage to send me that email. Fast forward almost 6 years from then, we are here, preparing from the most important day of our lives. You were right from the start, this was meant to work. And I am glad I took that leap of faith, with firmly grasping my hand. If I didn't, I don't think i will ever be as happy as I am now. 10 years on, as we look back, I hope we are just as happy, if not happier than ever, counting our blessings, to have found each other to have and to hold. A little more than a month.. How happy is a day, that is filled with love... :)


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Friday, January 06, 2012 ;
11:38 PM
5 more weeks to wearing my stunning (at least to me lah) wedding ring. I can't wait! More good news, the girls' bridesmaid dresses are on the way. In addition, we have received our invitation cards from the printer and they look beautiful! Very pleased with the quality :) beautiful shimmers! Was surprised as I was expecting the run off the mill kind of wedding cards. Next week T&J prints will contact me and hopefully we can get the wedding tree shipped over before the wedding. Album layout has also been finalized (finally) and photographer has sent them off for production. Future MIL taking me to buy si dian jing tomorrow. Menu also settled. Evening gown and kua also chosen - reminder: inform Abbie that I have decided on the grey gown instead of the one in midnight blue. Outstanding items: 1. Fitting for Leon 2. Accessories 3. Shoes 4. Place cards 5. Program list 6. Dress code for the brothers 7. Review song list 8. Montage & purchase song from iTunes 9. M&m's 10. Wedding tree guest book 11. Collect marriage cert on 9 feb 1030am 12. Book mani & pedi appt 13. Get hair trimmed 14. Dental appt 15. Send out invitation cards 16. Itinerary for Japan 17. Remind Leon to take leave 18. Meet Priscilia for show plate, floral and linen selection 19. Buy pillows 20. Buy gold for each other


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Tuesday, December 27, 2011 ;
10:23 PM
Tasks: 1. Settle the song list 2. Register with rom 3. Set up the appt with prisc 4. Call mbr and select the dress 5. Decide on bridesmaids dress color 6. Buy necklace from denni 7. Buy wedding shoes 8. Buy red shoes for kua 9. Programme for 11 & 12 And the list goes on.


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Monday, December 26, 2011 ;
7:51 PM
Tired.. Overwhelmed...

Packed my room today and cleared out some stuff.. feeling really tired now...

The week ahead will be extremely busy... Sigh.. thinking about it makes me queasy. It's going to be extremely busy till my wedding date. In fact, my audit ends the day before the wedding weekend. Sigh. I don't know how I am going to find time to tie up the loose ends. Feeling really stressed up now. Going to be such a busy month and I am not looking forward to it. Somehow I don't feel very supported at work.. Sigh.. For some reason, I feel extremely overwhelmed today.. I feel like giving up everything, and just hide.

A little more than 6 weeks to the big day. So many more to do, so little time left to do them. Sigh.

I'm tired.

Think I should lie down and take my mind off things for a while. A little me-time might do me good.


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Sunday, December 25, 2011 ;
11:42 PM
.... Is when the best thing about getting married is not the wedding, but to see your special someone everyday. 1.5 more months to seeing smelly on a daily basis. I hope we will continue to be as happy as we are now. I still miss him everyday and it is a very special feeling. 2012 marks 12 years as best of friends and 5 years as a couple. And of course the first as being man and wife. Many more to come!


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Thursday, December 15, 2011 ;
11:11 PM
Food Tasting

Went Fullerton this evening for our food tasting session with both sets of parents.

Very pleased with the food, just require some minor tweaks here and there. Hopefully our guests will enjoy our selection :)

Also pleasantly surprised to find out that it will be individually plated (YAY!). Was wondering how they will end up looking if they were to be served on a huge plate of 12 portions :s Thank goodness that's not the case. At least now it's worth the obscene amount of money paid for it.

The little imp and the tiny imp ^^


One of the 2012 setup. The theme isn't our cup of tea, they gonna arrange for the previous florist to work with us instead.


Smelly with Eva


Little Dawn


MENU

Starter:
Roast Shredded Duck and Apple Salad with Plum Dressing
Pan-fried Scallop stuffed with Cuttlefish Paste in Butter Lemon Cream Sauce
Crispy Prawns coated with Lemon Mayonnaise, Pan-seared Watermelon



Soup:
Double-boiled Red and Green Apple, Snow Fungus with Honey Dates in Chicken Consumme



Main #1:
Over-baked Chilean Sea Bass with Foie Gras and Asparagus in Superior Spicy Garlic Soy Sauce



Main #2:
Braised 10-Head Abalone and Sea Cucumber with Spinach



Main #3:
Steamed Eight Treasure Fragrant Rice wrapped with Lotus Lead, topped with Foie Gras
*to replace foie gras with scallop


Dessert:
Chilled Mango Cream with Pomelo, Sago, Vanilla Ice Cream and Caramelized Banana



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Thursday, December 08, 2011 ;
10:07 PM
Went to the dog farm at Pasir Ris on Sunday. Some of the kennels have really terrible conditions.. sigh...

Anyway, his mum went with us and she totally rejected my interest in getting a pug... said that if we ever get a pug, don't expect her to puppy-sit our pug when we are not in town... she see the face already no mood... sigh....

Anyway, another breed to consider, which she gave her 'okay'.

Yorkies is one of my fav breeds.


A General Appearance of the Dog

One of the first things to notice about a Yorkshire Terrier is its hairy, long coat and a small but well proportioned body. Though a toy breed, the Yorkshire Terries exudes ample intelligence and vitality, which reflects its activeness. Short and erect, the Yorkshire Terrier has a small head with a prominent set of eyes, and a short muzzle with a deep black nose. Their ears are v-shaped, pointed and should stand erect. Both front and hind legs are straight,with elbows neither turned inwards nor outwards, when viewed from front or back. Yorkshire Terriers have a small, straight tail and a slightly slanting back.

Temperament of the Dog

Despite their small structure, the Yorkshire Terrier has an attitude that is so exuberant and courageous, it would lead us to believe that the dog is not aware of its actual size. Though a toy breed, this dog displays ample courage and alertness which makes it a perfect home guard. This is also because of the fact that the Yorkshire Terriers owing to their origin(as a vermin hunter, ratter) have an acute sense of hearing.

Although Yorkshire Terriers usually live peacefully and in harmony,even with outside pets, they can be at times very territorial, especially the male yorkies. This is why introduction of a new pet cat or dog should be done very carefully. In case you are planning to keep a hamster or a rat(as a pet) along with your Yorkshire Terrier, drop the idea!

Due to their hunting instincts, your Yorkie is sure to devour your other pet, unless of course you plan to watch over like a hawk.

Better suited to an indoor or outdoor lifestyle?

A Yorkshire Terrier is undoubtedly an indoor pet and rightly so, considering some of its basic characteristics. Firstly, the yorkie has a small, light body structure and is surely very easy to carry and barely takes up any space. Despite having a hairy coat, the yorkie hardly ever sheds, making it a true blessing for those of us allergic to dog hair.

Moreover, the dog is swift, alert and yet graceful, and is sure to inform you of just about any intruder. If you do not have a big house or a very spacious backyard, you can still keep a yorkie, for this is one breed that needs hardly any exercise.

Also, the Yorkshire Terrier is above all a fairly well behaved, peaceful dog, tolerant of other pets around them and it is precisely all these qualities that make a yorkie one of the best loved indoor pets.


Are they suited to homes with kids?

Yorkshire Terriers are usually fond of people and children. But owing to their size and the fragility of the structure, it is best for Yorkshire Terriers to be monitored when interacting with really young children. Moreover temperaments differ among yorkies and some may not prefer children like the others. However, if handled with care and a lot of love, yorkies are sure to give you back the affection and be great companions.

How to take care of the Yorkshire Terrier Puppies?

It is needless to say that puppies would need extra care right from the time of birth till they are old enough to move around the house freely on their own. Update yourself on various puppy diseases such as Toxic Milk, Hypoglycemia, Fading puppies etc. From the time they are about 8 weeks old, puppies would need proper vaccination at regular intervals, talk to your vet and schedule appointments as per your pup's requirements.

Be sure to remove all possible hazardous things from your pup's reach, such as moth balls, detergents, bleaches, aerated cans, plastic scraps, fruit pits and foodstuffs such as chocolates, bones or play items like balls, batteries etc.

Keep your puppy well protected and make it feel safe. Often plastic or fiberglass crates or cages acts like an indoor home to them. Buy one that does not have any sharp edges but is comfortable at the same time. However, do not leave your puppy on its own before you have accustomed him to be in that way.


Training

Yorkshire Terriers tend to be a little hard to train, than some other breeds, as a result of their very nature to work without human interaction or assistance of any sort. This independence and free-spirited nature of Yorkshire Terriers make them rather difficult to house-break. However, consistent training will result in your Yorkie learning a great deal. All you really need to do is be patient and invest sufficient time and energy into training your dog.

Activity Level

Exercise needs of a yorkie is relatively simple and it readily acquires the activity level of its owner's. Moreover, a Yorkshire Terrier hardly requires rigorous exercises, owing to its frail, miniature structure. However, if the place where you live does not have a harsh weather, it is okay to take your yorkie out on walks frequently.

Grooming

Yorkshire Terriers require ample bathing and brushing to help their coat be clean and silky. A dry, tangled coat needs to be first wet with warm water and slowly worked out with fingers. Soft pin brushes with a rubbery texture is a good grooming device. Brush hair daily or weekly,(depending upon your dog's need) with a metal comb that has long teeth, to ensure you cover the entire length of the coat.

Be careful not to break your dog's hair in case it is tangled or feels dry. If you must blow dry your dog's coat, then make sure you dry them under low to medium heat, since their skin is far more sensitive to heat and burns easily. The area around and under your dog's eyes needs to be cleaned of the mucous and dried on a regular basis. Use a damp soft cloth or cotton wads to gently clean under the eyes.

To keep your Yorkshire Terrier's ears perfectly erect, trim them every few weeks carefully,along the contours, so as not to ruin its original shape or cut the ear leather.

Excessive hair needs to be trimmed from significant areas such as the rectum (to help your pet keep clean at all times) and under the paw.

Grooming your dog yourself, at your home and at your convenience will help you build a strong bond with your Yorkshire Terrier. You will not only save yourself the hassle of taking him to a groomer regularly, you save some money too.

Coat

Steel blue colored body and tail and a rich deep tan around the 'headfall', with the base of the ears and the area around the muzzle darker than the rest of the face. The tan color should not extend to your Yorkshire Terrier's back or neck.

Three important things to note about your Yorkshire Terrier's coat are color, quality and quantity. Moreover, Yorkshire Terriers do not have an undercoat, unlike most other dogs.

A good coat means hair that is soft and silky with ample shine and lustre. All of its body hair, particularly the head hair (known as the head fall), the hair on their muzzle should be long, with a rich tan color. While hair in between their paws maybe clipped to give a neat look, the hair on their ears needs regular trimming to help them stand erect. Yorkies hardly shed their coat but what you need to care about is messy, tangled hair.

Although most photographs of Yorkshire Terriers show them in long coats, it is only one of the styles. If you fail to regularly groom, shampoo or condition your dog's long coat, it will be a mess. To keep your Yorkshire Terrier's coat short, you may give your dog a short crop - more popularly known as the 'puppy cut'. This one is no doubt relatively easy to maintain, but you'd still need to groom your dog.

Health and Care

Cautions about Breeding the Dog

Before you decide to breed your dog, it is important that you educate yourself on the various conditions that may arise, and be prepared.

Is your dog a healthy example of its breed? Several infections transfer through breeding, therefore please ensure that the Bacteria Cultures and Brucellosis Tests have been performed on both the male and the female dog. Check the female dog additionally for diseases such as the Luxating Patella's, Cardiomyopathy, or Hypothyroidism, which are very much a reality of breeding. Above all, ask yourself if you have the time or inclination to find out about probable hereditary faults.

Complications do occur, and it is best not to take anything, especially your dog's health for granted. Do not leave your Yorkshire Terrier alone close to her whelping time, and make sure you stay with her for a day, both before and after she gives birth to her young ones. Educate yourself more and more on raising young puppies and ask your vet about conditions such as Scepticemia, Toxic Milk, Hypoglycemia, Fading Puppies etc.

Once the puppies grow up to be eight weeks old, vaccines need to be monitored at regular intervals until they are about four months old. Please remember that breeding your Yorkie will need ample time, money and the best care from you as the owner.

A Yorkshire Terrier’s health is directly related to it’s diet.


Life Span: Between 12 to 15 years.

Weight

Male: 4-7 LBS
Female: 3 - 7 LBS

Height

Male : 7 - 9 inches
Female : 7 - 9 inches

Group: Toy

Also known as: Yorkie

Ranking: 15 in KCGB



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Monday, December 05, 2011 ;
9:01 PM
Crash course on marriage

We met up with our JP last week to get acquainted with him with the eventual hope that he will sign our consent form. "Eventual hope" because he has a pre-requisite for all the couples he agrees to perform their solemnization - to go through a one hour crash course in marriage counseling. He would only agree to sign the consent form if the couple are indeed ready and suited to take the next step.

And thank goodness we 'passed'. In fact, I am very pleased to quote that we are 'one of the most cheerful and positive couples he has ever come across'! And according to the series of quizzes and tests that we did, we are also perfect for one another. :))

And I quote, he is 'very lucky to have me because I would make an excellent wife' Wahahaha I am awesome :D But of coz, my Smelly wasn't too shabby either. His personality is very much like mine, just that he has a little more variation, so he is an excellent choice of a husband too! *happy*

So apparently, our personalities are well suited for each other to make a happy marriage out of it. But having said that, it requires conscientious effort to keep it going. The series of quizzes not only made me understand him a little better, more importantly, it also helped me to understand myself better. What rubs me off the wrong way, and hopefully, with this new knowledge, I can better watch out for those elements that spark off any irritation and hopefully better maintain our relationship.

He asked us how we met and we told him the story of how we met 11 years ago, which surprised him. Haha. Nonetheless, he seem to be agreement that a union with friendship at its base have higher chances of becoming successful. 11 years our lives put into good use yea! He also shared with us some tips on making marriage work which I find it a little difficult to put into words now that I have mango yoghurt etched in my mind, so that's another post for another day.

In short, I am very glad we selected this JP and went through the 1 hour. It was insightful and we walked out of the meeting feeling assured that we are indeed meant for one another. What a wondrous feeling, to know with certainty that the foundation has been laid well, and that I will marry someone who is indeed my best friend! <3


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Saturday, December 03, 2011 ;
5:50 PM
Leon's out at a BBQ with his colleagues while I nurse a really bad cough. On the verge of losing my voice so decided to keep clear of any more heaty food.

Met up with Winnie and Bee Yan yesterday and it was good catching up! Friendships like that are the best, easy, no pressure and enjoyable. Just good friends coming together, catching up!

Updates

Completed:
Photographer - confirmed
Wedding singer - confirmed
JP - confirmed
Emcee - Steve & Rosa(TBC)
Wedding favours - Molten Brown
Post wedding mini honeymoon - Japan - booked!

Pending:
Invitation cards - emailed to set up meeting to look through the cards and printing requirements
eFile with ROM - after JP confirmed and consent signed
Gowns - Yet to select
Kua - to try one the ones at Bridal room
Album - Draft should be out early dec. Need iPads for additional points of browsing?
Guo da li items - list out and buy
Customary items - list out and buy
Song list & choice of instrument
Emcee - friend or engage one?
Guest list
Menu - change dessert?
Deco
Program
Food tasting date
Montage (+ itunes)
Angbao box - check with Priscilia if Fullerton can provide
Guest book - to get a guestbook tree?
Tea ceremony catering for both families
Gate crashing theme, games etc
Appoint main coordinators and beautiful receptionists
Billing arrangements for singer and hotel after event
Manhattan card
Honeymoon (going only after my JCI sobs)


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Sunday, November 27, 2011 ;
2:50 PM
And today I wonder, can I really bring you the happiness that you deserve..
The words that aren't spoken.. I wonder what they are.. are they of pain, and disappointment?

Sometimes, I really don't know how I can be a better person to you.
Am I really good enough?


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Wednesday, November 23, 2011 ;
5:09 PM

Little Ones, Great Joy

28 September 2011 @ 9:20 pm
Categories: Uncategorized
Posted by Simon

Hi People

It is for people like Therese that I am motivated to continue blogging and writing, despite being pulled away in a thousand places. She commented on my previous article on parenting. I always say “I can change the world, one by one”. So here is the latest article that I wrote for MCYS’ Behind Every Success. Enjoy!

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At the beginning of September, I had the great joy of seeing my eldest daughter married to her beau. In fact, I had the added privilege of officiating at her wedding! It was a family affair. Our second daughter was the bridesmaid. Our son walked his sister down the aisle and ‘gave’ her away in marriage. My wife was the witness to the marriage… and our family dog was the ring bearer!

In my speech to the couple I reminded them that a wedding is like a 100-metre dash, while marriage is a marathon. And although husband and wife qualify as a family, it would be a bonus to add on little ones soon after the wedding bells because they bring great joy. The equation goes like this, Couplehood: 1 + 1 = 1 family.

I urged the young couple to start a family soon and to have at least three children – one for him, one for her and one for Singapore! Our daughter nodded in agreement and said that if all goes well, she would do her part and contribute another dragon to the family. Then there would be three generations of dragons – my wife and I, my son and our future grandchild!

A word of caution I gave to the couple was to beware of the Love Triangle and not let the big C invade the husband-and-wife relationship. The first big C is other Characters in the form of other men or women. The second C is their Careers. And finally, the last C is Children! You see, children is a blessing, but they can also be the cause of marital strife and woe. Children can weld a husband and wife together, or they can be a wedge to drive apart a loving relationship. How does this happen?

When the baby comes along, the woman tends to think that her primary role is that of a mother and forgets that she is first a wife. Sometimes this phenomenon happens to the man too. In any event, who can display any ill feelings towards an innocent baby? And so the spouse suffers in silence.

My wife is one liberated woman. She allows me to subscribe to MAXIM (for the less informed – that is a magazine for men). Actually, we both subscribe to MACSIM – Movement Against Children Sleeping In Master-bedroom. Children have visitor’s rights only. Permanent residence? No way! A couple must guard their intimate relationship jealously.

Another source of arguments and discontent that may arise is how to deal with work on the domestic front when baby comes along. A wife will measure what a husband does against what she does, and because what a man does looks small in comparison, the woman often ends up unhappy and disgruntled.

The man, on the other hand, usually measures his contribution to the chores he does against what his father did, and because he is sure to be doing more, he ends up feeling rather good about himself and his contribution. This is even more so if his wife chooses to be a full-time homemaker, thus making him the sole breadwinner.

In fact, other issues will arise and a couple will need answers to several questions.

Parenting Questions:

* Are we ready for a newborn? Are we ready for added roles? Who will be the primary caregiver?
* How will finances be shared? Will mummy stay home? Will our parents be dependent on us?
* Can we afford a domestic helper? Is childcare available?

If the couple can come to a happy consensus, then conflicts will be minimised. Early conflict resolution can save couples from latent dangers that may surface when baby finally comes along.

Perhaps setting some parenting goals will help a couple prevent Baby from spoiling the marital bliss.

Parenting Goals:

1. Be spouse-centred, not child-centred.
2. Children are ‘leasehold property’ while the spouse is ‘freehold property’.
3. Establish proper rules – but don’t neglect the relationships!

Truly, children will bring added joy to a blissful marriage. We watch our little ones grow up and they grow up too fast. It seems that within a blink of an eye, our three children are all grown up. Now we can only reminisce about their childhood days. Carefree days of flying kites, playing catching, hide-and-seek, running about in the playground, swimming and catching spiders. Of course, it was not all fun and play… there were spelling tests and colouring contests to contend with too!

Wasn’t it just yesterday that we watched them nervously as we packed them off for their first day at nursery school? Separation anxiety was high, and it was not always coming from the child. Sometimes parents feel it more, especially when we have to let go of the first-born. After all, we are first-time parents the first time around. Things got better with the subsequent children. It always does. We call it ‘experience’.

I can therefore safely say “Experience the full gamut of your little ones, for they bring great joy!” The tough times will surely pass and when we find ourselves out of a job as parents we can shed a tear or two, a little sad, but plenty glad that we have done a reasonably good job. We may think we fail our children a bit here and there, but after all, we are their parents and they will still always love us. Just ask our children.

Former General Manager of TOUCH Community Services, Simon Sim has addressed staff of ministries, statutory boards, corporations as well as parents in various schools on strengthening family relationships. He is also the author of The Family CEO: Building A Happy and Successful Family.



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la femme ;
f'Love qing.
quarter century old;
economy whore;
singapore

Loves of My Life ;
family;
friends;
gaming;
tarutaru;
anime;
musik;
rain;
food;
shopping;
Smelly Baby

i follow ;
Hollywood
Ju
Yan
Char
Winnie
Our home <3
Fantastic makeup tuts



kudos to you;
designer | kathleen
image | nabhan

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